• Locker Room Talk

    Let’s see if I’ve got this right–the locker room is a magical safe space where men can boast about their sexual prowess and conquests. Maybe after you’ve asserted your masculinity with some athletic activity it’s only natural for you to breeze into conversation about trying to sleep with married women, since you can only see their legs and boobs anyway. And you’re famous! So groping them without their consent feels familiar to your hands. It doesn’t matter, anyway. It doesn’t count, what you said. It was locker room talk.

    Did that Access Hollywood bus feel like a locker room? You and a TV host, two famous men, untouchable men, sparring for alpha spot with your stories–it was casual, no big deal. You threw a few Tic-Tacs in your mouth for good measure. After all, women (especially beautiful, famous women) are disgusted by bad breath almost as much as they are disgusted by rape. Good thinking!

    Your ego was inflated. You had Billy Bush calling you “The Donald.” Arianne Zucker was on her way to meet you. You couldn’t help it. You also couldn’t tell your microphone was on.

    So you spoke openly about the way you really feel about women–a p*ssy that you can grab. But hey, American women! Don’t be alarmed that a presidential candidate endorses sex without consent! It was locker room talk. These were “just words, folks.”

    At least you issued an apology, you know, if anyone was offended. It failed to address that I was more than offended, I was disgusted and deeply unsettled.
    You are failing to see the impact of your words. If our next president is a man who cavalierly discusses kissing women because he’s famous and cannot recognize the severity of his speech, that means we have a president who disregards the existence of rape culture perpetuated by men in what they see as acceptable conversations.

    I don’t care who you are, how famous you are, how many wives you’ve had, how many women you’ve slept with or how attractive you think you are. Women do not exist for your pleasure and entertainment, as bodies to be grabbed, groped and kissed. If you cannot give women the right to say “no”, then locker room talk is just the tip of a grand, misogynistic iceberg that the female-bodied community has been fighting for generations.

    This article was originally published on Stitchkitmag.com.

    Photo credit to The Washington Post.

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